This may sound harsh, but it’s the truth: I don’t take advice—at least not without seriously filtering it—from people who aren’t where I want to be or don’t embody the lifestyle I aspire to for myself and my family. My standards are high, and they guide who I listen to and trust.
Too often, I see people making the mistake of taking advice from those who are no better off than they are. They listen to friends, coworkers, or even strangers who aren’t living the life they want but are quick to offer opinions on fitness, health, finances, or personal growth. And I just don’t get it. If you wouldn’t trade places with someone, why would you take their advice?
Choose Your Guides Wisely
The key to growth is being selective about who you trust to guide you. Not everyone who speaks with authority deserves to be an authority in your life. Think about it: if someone hasn’t achieved what you’re working toward, how can they help you get there? Whether it’s about building strength, improving your health, or making major life decisions, the people you choose to learn from should be living examples of the outcomes you desire.
This doesn’t mean that someone has to be perfect or at the pinnacle of success in every area of life. But they should have walked the path you’re on—or at least be ahead of you on that journey. Their advice should come from experience, not just theory.
Why This Matters in Fitness (and Beyond)
In the gym, this principle is critical. There’s no shortage of people willing to offer fitness advice, but not all of it is valuable—or safe. If someone’s approach hasn’t worked for them, why would it work for you? This is why at Penance Gym, we emphasize not just experience but results. Our coaches lead by example, demonstrating the strength, health, and consistency we help our clients build.
The same applies to other areas of life. Whether you’re seeking advice on career growth, relationships, or financial planning, look to those who have achieved what you want. Learn from their wins—and their mistakes—so you can avoid pitfalls and accelerate your progress.
Stop Taking Advice from the Wrong People
It’s easy to fall into the trap of listening to people simply because they’re around. But just because someone is willing to share their opinion doesn’t mean you need to listen. Instead, ask yourself these questions:
- Are they living the lifestyle I want for myself?
- Have they achieved what I’m striving for?
- Do their values align with mine?
If the answer is no, then their advice likely isn’t worth your time. It’s not about arrogance; it’s about being intentional with the voices you allow to influence your decisions.
Elevate Your Standards
If you want to reach your goals, whether in fitness or life, you need to be intentional about who you allow to guide you. Surround yourself with people who inspire you, challenge you, and have the experience to help you grow. Because at the end of the day, your progress depends on the quality of the guidance you follow.
Choose your mentors wisely. Your future self will thank you for it.