In any gym, it’s common to see people measuring themselves against others. Whether it’s the weights someone else grabs or the speed they maintain during a workout, there’s often a temptation to follow someone else’s lead. And sure, having a “rabbit to chase” — someone to push you a little harder — can be beneficial. But if you’re not careful, constantly comparing yourself to others can limit your progress and even set you back.
The Trap of Comparison
Picture this: You select your weights based on what the person next to you is using. It seems harmless at first — maybe they’re stronger, so you’re inspired to push a little harder. But what if they’re not challenging themselves today? What if they’ve chosen weights that are too light, just going through the motions without real effort? Or worse, what if they’ve gone too heavy and are sacrificing good form? Suddenly, you’ve handed control of your workout over to someone who doesn’t even know your goals, your abilities, or what kind of day you’re having.
Listen to Your Body’s Feedback
Here’s the truth: progress is personal. To truly improve, you need to start listening to the feedback your own body gives you, not what someone else is doing.
Ask yourself these questions during your workout:
- Can I go a little heavier today?
- Could I push the pace just a bit more?
- Am I in the right zone for progress, or am I just comfortable?
For some of you, the answer will be “yes” — you’ve been coasting for too long and it’s time to challenge yourself. Step out of your comfort zone and see what you’re capable of. That’s where real growth happens.
For others, the answer might be “no” — you’re already pushing yourself hard, and you just need to keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t be tempted to overdo it just because someone else is. Instead, take pride in knowing you’re working at the level that’s right for you.
The Power of Focus
One of the best things you can do for yourself is put your blinders on. Stop looking around and comparing yourself to others. Be the one who sets the standard, not the one who follows someone else’s patterns. Focus on your work, your progress, and what your body is telling you.
Because here’s the kicker: when you consistently focus on yourself, putting in honest effort and making steady progress, other people will start noticing. Suddenly, you’ll be the person they’re looking at for inspiration. But by that point, you won’t care — because you’ll know the only race that matters is the one you’re running for yourself.
The Takeaway
Having people around you can push you to be better, but you can’t let someone else dictate your progress. Use their energy if it inspires you, but always rely on your own body and your own effort to guide your decisions. Put your blinders on, do the work, and trust that your progress — no matter how small — will add up over time.
Let others chase you.